Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Is Tinder Ever OK When You're in a Relationship?

*dusts off Chattery header* Oohee, it's been a while, right? 

There was a chat happening in a Facebook group I'm part of today and I really, really would love to hear your thoughts on it as it seriously divided opinion. Shockingly so, I thought. 

The gist was that one of the girls saw the Tinder app on her chap's phone as he was texting. They've been living together for 2 1/2 years. Asking him about it, his response was defensive at first, but then dismissive, saying 'Sure I was just curious, all the lads have it.'

This lovely lass was asking advice as to whether she was being paranoid in telling him it wasn't acceptable behaviour in a committed relationship. Especially since she happened to find out he'd been using the app by chance, that he hadn't brought it up in conversation. 

This is where things became divided. The consensus seemed to be that something was a little hinky, with most advising that she trust her gut but surprisingly (to me at least) a lot of gals seemed of the opinion that this was perfectly acceptable, even expected in relationships nowadays. Seemly we're all visual creatures and Tinder is just a bit of fun. With some lasses even saying that they use it WITH their partners for a spot of 'harmless creeping'.

My question is thus. Is having a profile on Tinder, or any dating site for that matter, really OK when you're in a committed relationship? Of course, we're all adults and can make our own decisions about the relationships we have, no matter how fickle or virtual but would it be a deal breaker for you? I'd love to know...

Was she right to be so upset or are relationships at a point now where anything goes, social media wise? 

Let's Chat!

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